Cara Crisler

Cara Crisler


I am passionate about creating safe spaces for honest sharing, connecting and learning.

In my early 40’s, I underwent a process of discovering what do I really want, as opposed to mostly being in tune with the needs of others and avoiding conflict. More than anything I wanted to discover how to be authentic while staying in connection with others.

In that time, I fortunately met NVC, which gave me a model for compassionate, connecting communication I now apply in all of my relationships, such as partner, mother, friend, colleague AND perhaps the most important one of all, the one I have with myself.

As an EMCC-accredited coach and NVC-based trainer and mediator, I live with my Dutch husband and our two teenage children. I work mostly in Haarlem and Amsterdam, supporting individuals, couples and organizational teams with their communication goals.

In my role as ombudswoman for three different organizations, I help individuals turn their complaints into needs-based requests. This includes the School of L.I.F.E—Learning in a Free Environment, an NVC Democratic school near Amsterdam.

I am thrilled to have the opportunity to teach connecting2life courses, contributing to many others wanting to learn the empowering language of NVC!